Often people come to couples therapy feeling bruised and disheartened from a relationship that has begun to feel more like a battle than a partnership. Other times there isn’t any overt conflict -- but rather a sense of disconnection and lack of intimacy. Most of us are doing the best we can but often feel our ability to have a fulfilling relationship is limited by the inadequate communication skills we had modeled for us as children. In addition we are also undoubtedly carrying around issues from our families of origin which are coloring all of our current relationships.
I believe we choose our partners for a reason – to mend the past hurts and provide us with what we did not receive in childhood. I work with couples to clarify what they really need from their partner, and to help them open lines of communication.